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How does the Landmark Forum teach the philosophy of life

July 12, 2017 6:04 am / Leave a Comment

When you read any Landmark Forum Review, you will understand that the forum is not just a seminar that teaches you lessons to climb up the corporate ladder effectively. It is a seminar that imparts valuable life lessons that you will carry with you forever. Though the seminar lasts for about 42 hours (3, 14-hour sessions from Friday to Sunday and one 4-hour farewell session the following Tuesday), the lessons and impact that you take from this stay with you for many years. In three days, you get to learn about the philosophy of life in a way that you have never heard before. Here is how the forum goes about in its approach.

Whatever you feel is a result of your past experience
One of the main lessons that the forum leader teaches you is that there is a lot of difference between the actual facts of a particular situation and the meaning or the stories that you draw from that situation. In other words, the forum leader stops you when you blame the other person for your failed relationship, failed business deal or other problems. Instead, he asks you to do a self-retrospection and asks you to speak in detail about your problems in the open.

For example, when you tell the leader that your relationship with your daughter is strained because she feels that you don’t give her enough freedom, the leader tells you it is because of what happened to you in your past that you are behaving in a particular way with her. He tells you that you are being over-protective of your daughter for selfish reasons. When you don’t agree to her, he uses abusive language and tells you that you can kill her instead than making her suffer. That would set the tears rolling for you. You would understand that you have been punishing your daughter because of your perception of a past event that happened with you. In the three days of the forum, you learn a lot of stuff like these and when you come out, you learn to be more appreciative of people and relationships.

Apologies for the rackets
The mistakes or the wrong doings that you do in the past are classified as rackets by the forum leader. Yes, the jargons can be quite confusing; however, the concepts are simple. One of the main philosophical parts of the Landmark Forum is that the candidates are forced to apologise for their rackets. During the breaks, the forum leader makes you call the people whom you have wronged against and apologise for your mistakes. When your parents, spouse, lover, boss, subordinate, friend or whoever you have erred against, doesn’t pick up your call, the leader urges you to keep calling so that you get a chance to apologise to them and mend relationships, if possible. When you are in doubt, the forum leader uses more dominant language and a rebuking tone so that you keep your conscience clear. You have to ensure that you don’t get bogged down by your leader’s tone; he is abusive so that he can bring about the self-realisation in you.

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Landmark Forum emphasizes on the use of appropriate words while communicating

May 24, 2017 10:29 am / Leave a Comment

President Woodrow Wilson had said once, “If you come to me with your fists doubled, I assure that I can double up my fists faster than you do. However, if you come for a negotiation on the table, you will not find a warmer person than me.” What does this quote signify? It says that brute force cannot take you anywhere but subtlety can surely do so. This is the basic motto of the Landmark Forum.

How does one develop this trait of dealing with people? It is not at all difficult? Have you ever tried arguing with a policeman? The more you convince him that he is wrong, the more he will be convinced that he is right.

Words do matter, especially the way you use them. You can say the same thing in a different manner that could be acceptable to him. The following story can throw more light on the matter.

There was a noted Emperor in India who had the habit of discussing his dreams with his ministers. One fine morning he stated that he had a dream in which he lost all his teeth except one. He wanted to know the significance of the dream. All his ministers and astrologers huddled together. They did not want to give an answer that could incur the wrath of the Emperor. The consulted amongst themselves and concluded that the lone surviving tooth represented the Emperor himself. They stated that his entire relatives will die before him. The Emperor got angry and called for the court jester. The court jester listened to the case and remarked that the lone tooth definitely represented the Emperor but added that he would live much longer than his relatives. The Emperor was very happy and showered the jester with gifts.

The moral of the story is not whether the Emperor was a foolish man or anything of the sort. The moral is that one should use appropriate words while making a statement. In fact, the astrologers and the jester meant the same thing but the jester put forward his views in a manner, acceptable to the Emperor. What does this story signify? This story emphasizes the use of words in the right manner. It brings the concept of effective communication into the picture. If you are able to put forth your viewpoints clearly and effectively, you have won half the battle.

Youngsters should learn these traits early in life. They have to contend with their bosses as well as the subordinates at the same time. They have to perform the role of a vital link between the top management cadre and the worker class. If you manage to learn the skill of effective communication, you stand to benefit a lot. You can bring these skills to the fore while writing a Landmark Forum review. These reviews have a great significance because they can influence the decision of future participants of the course. A good review can definitely have a positive impact on the outcome.

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